Family values

Lessons for Children Using Compliance and Example.

Look for both avenues when dealing with children, although the lessons they will remember and apply will be more the ones that are the product of example. Compliance is always a requirement for discipline, as children grow to school age discipline may be removed from the home environment, therefore the hours at home are ever more important for instilling family values that govern outside relationships.

Ongoing child rearing is all about proactive communication.

The four basic lessons of communal cohabitation are:

1.     Individuality (the importance of individual thoughts and actions)

2.     Respect (This includes the quietude of listening, showing respect for personal possessions and treating others as you expect to be treated)

3.     Personal Space (Learning to see an imaginary bubble around oneself and respecting the same space around others)

4.     Unified Concern (Learning caring concerns whether they are injuries of body, mind or spirit)

Teaching of children is easiest when these principles are noticed and pointed out as examples, look for opportunities where pause and observation is worth a thousand words.

Derailing a heated Discussion

Derailing a heated Discussion

It is with a course change midstream that provides a unique challenge of finding common ground with an adversary, however it is this crucial moment that can bring the most rewarding results.

Seeking dialogue that can slow up confrontation, not only destabilizes the heat of an argument, but also gives a much needed break allowing the introduction of compromise. The ability to make the effort to open a wider path is best facilitated by a view from outside the train of thought. Careful listening will have provided pieces of knowledge that when used in a constructive approach will allow mental bridges to form. This type of negotiation may be difficult, but with clear understanding of the end goal of forwarding both parties down a cooperative conclusion, it will form a fundamental tool for those seeking a resolution. 

By continued practice this type of negotiation becomes not only easier to engage, but also rewarding. 

Appreciate the Purpose of Effort

          

        Look beyond a grade for performance when assessing accomplishments. It is not always the end result that reveals success. The journey of the project will yield much in the way of lessons. This applies to physical tasks as well as personal relationships.

        The very best job of caring for a garden will eventually see new weeds emerge. It is in the work to enable the garden to thrive where the best gains are seen. The harvest is then assured with the cooperation of mother nature and the toil of the gardener. A sudden storm may eliminate an abundant harvest, but not the joy of the growing experience.

        The fluctuation of personal relationships may include variations in interest as the journeys of the individuals do not always run in tandem. The distant assessment will be in recognizing the purpose of the effort, never the separation or the termination of the tie will be recognized as the personal gain. 

        The accumulation of experience is well digested by the thoughtful mind.

Judy Maize

March 1, 2017